Hey all, it’s Chrissy. I’m going to write this post from my perspective of Abby and I’s first fertility appointment and what I learned, didn’t learn, loved and found to be disappointing.
First, like most appointments we had to wait, which was fine because honestly I enjoyed sitting with Abby and sharing our excitement. We had a few questions written down, questions that we couldn’t find answers to on the internet and questions that were more opinion based for our Doc.
The first lady into the room was a nurse, she asked a lot of questions about Abby’s general health, exercise, menstrual cycle and moods. The nurse was super friendly and seemed engaged in the process and the answers. The next lady was our fertility Doc, who had the personality of a wet mop. I wanted to raise my hand and ask for the nice one to come back! Abby even tried to lighten the mood by making a “Jurassic Park” joke referring to how the sperm would arrive to the doctors office, I laughed, the Doc not so much.
Abby and the Doc went over Abby’s cycles which seemed worrisome to the doctor as they weren’t always regular which could making conceiving more difficult. The Doc then made a very unfortunate comment basically stating “Well if Abby can’t conceive then we can try with you (meaning me!)”. What the heck? Just because there are two baby makers in this relationship doesn’t mean we can just substitute me in whenever. I was concerned with how quickly the doctor seemed to just pull in a pinch hitter and I could tell Abby was hurt too.
Abby and I quickly moved into our questions, “Which cryobank would you recommend?’ “What’s the process look like?”, “What does insurance cover?”. The Doc explained that Abby would need to get a blood panel done for hormones and they wanted to do an internal ultrasound that day to establish a plan. The insurance question she wasn’t able to answer which was expected but we figured it didn’t hurt to ask. The Doc only referred two cryobanks which I thought was unfortunate, as the two the recommended were sister companies and basically one in the same.
I was happy to have the first appointment done but a little disappointed in the execution, it’s fair to say we shared a few adult beverages together afterwards!
I think it is important to understand how Abby felt during this process and she can get into more detail about the medical process in her next post!
Chrissy and Abby